A Do-It-Yourself Guide to Wellness Instead of trying to get rid of anxiety and stress, change your relationship to them. Mindfulness practice grounds us. Our drama-of-the-moment becomes thoughts and feelings that come and go as we navigate back to now. Awareness wakes us up from automatic pilot, and the mental fog begins to lift. Damaging self-talk starts to lose its authority, and anxiety and stress become less dire and more textured; we can work with them.