The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life. The first lesson in this transformative book is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a womanâ€™s arousal, desire, and orgasm. Cutting-edge research tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a womanâ€™s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.